It was the last thing on my mind

by editor

When I met Mike on Paltalk, it was the last thing on my mind, as I was currently in a pretty much dead marriage and still am until my divorce is final on October 1st. The idea of a new relationship just didn't seem to be an option. My first husband broke my heart by having an affair on me with my niece November 2007. I have been unhappy in the marriage even before his infidelity occurred and tried so desperately to bridge the huge gap in our marriage but he shunned all attempts. I felt more like a single woman rather than a married one. So I spent a lot of time with my friends in chat rooms. Thats how I met Mike, he was fun to chat with or so I thought until I realized that he blocked me from the program. I tried to ask my friends to find out why he did this and they got no answers from him. Then one night he came into the chat room and I asked him why he blocked me. He sent me a whisper and I replied, I can't respond to you unless you unblock me. He asked me how to unblock and I told him and he pm'd me. He told me that my flirting was a little to much considering I was still married, but that he felt bad about blocking me. We exchanged numbers and chatted and talked all the time. He was unsure about what was happening, as we got very close, simply enjoying each other's company. He is younger than me by 16 years. He was due to graduate in June 2008. I told him that I wanted to be there, because he worked so hard on his studies. He was flattered that I would even ask to come there, but very happy too. One night he suggested that instead of coming for a week in June, to come in April instead. I told him that I would luv to be there for both but I felt it was best to go in June because I felt that was too important to miss. He was disappointed but understood. After I got off the phone with him, I looked at my budget and felt I could swing both after all, which made him happy when I called him and told him the good news. I went to Mansfield Ohio for the weekend on April 17th. This was the first time going to Ohio and Mike had plans to show me around and wanted to take me to the prison where they filmed The Shawshank Redemption as we both luv that movie, but sadly it was closed when we went. Meeting for the first time, I expected I would be such a nervous wreck, as I normally am when I meet new people. When I got off the plane and headed to meet him, I knew who he was right away and he did too. We hugged as if we knew each other what seemed like forever. It didn't take me long to warm up to him and true to his word he made my weekend enjoyable by showing me around. He took me to this place called Steak and Shake, something we don't have in Connecticut. The milkshakes are absolutely awesome and I can only manage a small one. I had forgotten what fun was, it's been so long that I truly didn't want to get back on the plane and Mike felt the same way, but I had to. That weekend made me realize just how unhappy I was and that if I wanted to be happy in my life, things had to change. When I got back to Connecticut, my husband met me at the bus station. We went to subway and talked. He asked me if I was intimate with Mike and I said no, which was the truth because Mike gave me much more than sex, he gave me pure companionship. Mark (my husband) had hoped that I would have, said he would have felt less guilty for what he did to me and it would have evened the score, but that just isn't my style. I feel that I'm a better woman than that and stronger one as well, as two wrongs don't make a right. We decided that night that we will get a divorce and by the beginning of June everything was set in motion. Not quite sure why it takes from June to October to make it final, but there you go. June came and I spent a week in Mansfield Ohio. Met all of his family and friends. They were wonderful to be around. I found it weird that he gets along so well with his sister, even if he does tease her most of the time. The hotel had a swimming pool and we made good use of that. Prior to that it had been years since I have gone swimming and it was so much fun. Mike took me to Cedar Point, which is I'm told one of the most popular places to go for roller coaster rides, which I'm not a very big fan of, as I am afraid of heights. Mike was sure he could help me overcome my fear. The first ride we went on was the Demon Drop. It was scary but bearable. I managed to go on a few roller coaster rides, which were kiddie rides from Mike's point of view. He managed to get me on a ride called the Power Tower. Let me tell you, there are two choices to take. One is you go up real fast and descend slowly down or you go up real slow and descend very fast. I choose the one where u go up slow but descend fast. When we got to the top, omg I kept my eyes closed the entire time and when we dropped, it was the worst feeling and it would bring you up a lil and drop you again. We got off the ride, I headed for the nearest bench and sat down. I told Mike that I need to collect myself and then found myself crying for a good 10 minutes. Mike felt so bad about it that he felt he "had" to win me a prize, even though I felt it wasn't necessary. He did the game where you put the water in the clown head and filled up a balloon and went against a little girl. It didn't bother him that he beat someone much younger than him if it meant he won something for me lol Over all the week was wonderful and again I still hated the idea of going back. He promised me that he would come to Connecticut for my birthday in August as I was due to turn 40. So he came up for a week. I knew that he had bought a ring but he kept insisting that I don't know what kind of ring it was by saying it could be a friendship ring, a promise ring or an engagement ring. Either way I didn't care. I knew I met someone special and I wasn't looking. August 22 was our 4 month anniversary of being a couple and he pulls out the ring from his bag. I didn't know what to say. I knew it was going to happen but was still shocked when it did. He told me he had intended to give the ring to me as an engagement ring but felt that we should take it slow and so it was turned into a promise ring. I have to admit that I was a little disappointed, but I was also fine with it. When I tried on the ring, it is a little too big and needed to be resized. On August 23rd, we get ready for my bbq birthday party with my family and friends. It was the best birthday party that I remember having since I was a kid. Everyone got a chance to see my promise ring and they totally adored Mike over Mark. When the party got a little too noisy, Mike and I went upstairs to spend some quality time together. He told me that he wanted to marry me and I was thinking that in time he'll want to propose but when he kept insisting that he wanted to marry me, it occurred to me that he could be proposing. So I said to him that if he was proposing to me right now, that he better do it the proper way. He jumped off the bed and got on one knee and asked me to marry him and of course I said yes. Was a little nervous telling my family that my promise ring was now an engagement ring but they didn't seem to mind as I was wearing it on my neck the whole day. Mike pulled my sister Lorri aside and asked if it was ok that he proposed to me and she told him that it was and welcomed him into our crazy family. I think if my parents were still alive, they would have approved of him as well. I feel totally blessed that I met someone as special as Mike, especially all the hurt that I have been through in less than a year. Its funny when you think that things are never going to get any better and when your not looking or expecting it, they do. Mike started a new job this Monday in the field of work he went to college for. We both look forward to my moving to Mansfield Ohio soon and planning our wedding April 17th, 2010, the same day we met this year. Sorry that this was so long but there was no way to condense such an amazing story.

-- By CtPryncess

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